“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” — Albert Einstein
In a serious relationship, if anyone is going to move across country, or even to another country for their partner, it will likely be the woman–and she will end up doing the packing too. If there is accommodating to do for their partners, women win the gold and men generally come in last.
I don’t want to say that all men drag their feet when it comes to changing or accommodating their wives. But frequently, I do see that many women struggle with myopic men, men who think, But why should I change that for her?? The short answer is because you just might lose her if you don’t. I speak from experience (I suffered a divorce) and though I am a marriage and family therapist, I have certainly not been close to perfect in accommodating my second wife (and last) over the 20-plus years we have been together.
So, have I changed anything for my wife?