“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”
“So then, the relationship of self to other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.”
Jake and Katie were in a somber mood when they arrived for their first meeting with me. As soon as they walked into my office, Jake sauntered straight over to my credenza and plunked down a stack of papers similar to what a lawyer might do in court. I asked him if he would take a seat but he insisted on standing and began hurling invectives and accusations at his wife who was cowering at the far end of my sofa. He launched into a rant about her character and accused her of having an affair. She was aghast and I was speechless. Needless to say, the hour was replete with denial and finger pointing.
Their marriage seemed to swing back and forth from divorce to reconciliation like some bizarre pendulum from hell.